Good Change, Bad Change, It’s All the Same

Photo Credit: Joe Leap

Have you ever wondered why you felt so drained even though you’ve accomplished something amazing? Maybe you’re supposed to feel elated about a career move but then suddenly you’re exhausted just thinking about it. If you express those feelings you’ll be seen as unhappy and ungrateful. It’s okay, there is nothing wrong with you, your body is just responding to stress, it’s just good stress. However, your body responds to those changes, roughly, in the same way as negative change. We go through similar hormonal responses.

Change can be good, in moderation, at the right time in your life.

If you’ve never heard of the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale Test, I recommend you take it. You should retake this test anytime you feel unexplainably stressed, you don’t know why you keep getting sick or have some unexplained health issues. Don’t forget to add things that you can recognize as stress that may not be listed or may not be as straight forward. For instance, if you’ve just graduated college make sure to add ‘end of college‘ and ‘outstanding personal achievement‘. If you’re moving back in with your parents add ‘moving‘ and ‘change in family obligations‘ as well. Thus graduating from college is incredibly stressful, even though it’s an entirely wonderful achievement.

All change is stress to your mind and body!

If you’d like to do some further research head on over to the CDC website to do an experiment on how you personally cope with stress: (https://www.cdc.gov/bam/teachers/documents/stress_body_mind.pdf).

Just know that all change is stress to your mind and body. Just got a promotion? Great, check the stress box. Just had a big disagreement with your in-laws? Sorry about that, but again, check the stress box.

So what do we do about about all this stress? Since it’s inevitable and life happens after all. Learn to recognize the things you can control and things you can’t. If you’ve just lost an important family member, now is not the time to take on optional work. MindTools states, “While this is clearly easier said than done, you can usually avoid moving house, for example, close to when you retire, or when one of your children goes off to college; you can learn conflict resolution skills to minimize conflict with other people; you can avoid taking on new obligations or engaging with new programs of study; and you can take things easy, and look after yourself.” 

Looking after yourself receives a post all on it’s own, but for now find one thing you do just for yourself (that doesn’t include internet surfing or television watching). Schedule time for this, by writing it on the calendar. Do this regularly and more often during noticeably high stress times. It’s okay not to do it all now. That’s the whole point of slowing down. There is a time in life for everything, but the time for everything is not right now.

Meditation also deserves a note here. I am in no way affiliated with 10% Happier but I’ve used their first seven guided meditations and I can happily recommend it.

I’m going to coin the term, Change Seeker, a person constantly in need of change to feel fulfilled.

Personal aside: the military has made me a Change Seeker. I look for change everywhere, I constantly rearrange my furniture, I’m always looking forward to the next place to move or new things to get involved in (or new degrees to get). But I can recognize that I’m, pretty much, chronically stressed (in both good and bad ways). I made a list of ongoing projects and I’m a little embarrassed to share it, so let’s just say it’s over 50 items long. I’m looking to slow my change seeking behaviors and hope to report to you a healthier update in the future.

 

 

Are you Healthy? Check your Poop!

Checking your daily poop for optimized health.

Poop Pageant Image: From Practical Paleo

What’s the best way to determine if you’re currently healthy? Take a look at your daily poop, AND you should be having a DAILY poop.

Finding a healthy balance is extremely difficult for all of us in the Western world. There are so many demands pulling us in so many directions that our health takes a back seat to work, home demands, kids, you name it. But your health (mental and physical) is incredibly important to those around you. When you are miserable, so is your spouse, kids, and co-workers, and that’s partially your fault for not taking care of yourself in the first place.

Take care of yourself, in order to not drag others down!

Now, I’m no guru on the body. I’ve taken my fair share of classes in anatomy and nutrition but I’m not a doctor, holistic or otherwise. I do care about my body though and I know when it feels good and I know when it feels pretty shitty.

In order to feel my best, I need to:

  • Eat Clean, this means eating real food, not something from a bag, can or tub. It usually requires a good amount of prep work but it’s worth every second. I’m planning on doing the Whole30 soon and will post results. Eating clean requires me to Plan, Plan, Plan! I hate this actually, I’m usually the more spontaneous type but if I don’t plan, then I eat junk and I feel terrible!

 

  • I take my supplements! In today’s food market we cannot get what we need from the foods that are being grown and produced. The soil is laden with pesticides and run-off. It’s not worth losing sleep over but it’s worth knowing that you’re going to need to supplement. I take a multivitamin and pre and probiotics. There is a lot that has come out recently about gut health. Want to know if your gut is healthy? Check out this poop pageant, hang it in your bathroom even (no shame in the game!).

 

  • Keep your house clean with the most eco-friendly products you can find. You can make your own cleaning products or find a good company you trust (right now I’m stuck on Mrs. Meyers). I use a few basics products and try to keep it simple with four bottles for everything!

 

  • Create a healthy mind. I’ve just started the 10% happier meditations. I feel a little silly meditating, but so did Dan Harris when he first started. It’s cooler to be calm than be a lunatic all the time. Yoga is also my go to mind and body workout. I currently practice Yoga with Adriene on youtube. She has so many videos, for every type of yoga imaginable.

 

  • Finally, exercise. The concept of exercise is by far the most difficult lifestyle factor for me to achieve. I need accountability, every single day, or I need a calendar reminder to get outside and move. Exercise doesn’t need to be gym worthy; you can walk/jog around your neighborhood, ride your bike, go swimming, or do a workout video at home (there are so many free ones on youtube).

Do you have any other strategies that keep you at your best?

Disclaimer: I am in no way affiliated with any of these companies. They are purely my chosen methods of research and products.